The good news is that there is hope for us all! Emotional intelligence is something you can learn. Now that we have all collectively exhaled, pull up a chair and relax. In this space while we will discuss serious topics, the intention is to teach in a light-hearted way, you are guaranteed to learn something.
Emotional intelligence is like love!! Many-splendoured…it can surely add value to your life once you learn of its existence, or it can cause you to be quite disappointed when you realize other people’s lives are devoid of it. How do you treat with your emotions? When you find yourself in a place where you are conscious of the emotions you feel, what do you do to sustain that understanding then share them with the relevant parties? Think of those relevant parties as your children, your co-workers, and the people you encounter on a daily basis.
Once you begin to train your brain to practice emotionally intelligent behaviors, they can become the norm, and almost automatic once you do it habitually. The same way you were able to stop any destructive habits by associating them with negative thoughts, the reverse can be applied to enforce positive thoughts. For starters, let us think about self-awareness. A person who is self-aware is able to see themselves in the moment, and from other people’s perspectives. This person is able to behave appropriately in the space that they find themselves, and understands fully how the social codes that govern behavior are to be applied. This understanding is what allows them to be appropriately attired and speak at a specific volume when they are in a social setting.
It is important for us to point out that studies correlate high emotional intelligence with the ability to earn more. That is a great association to make, it helps to understand how being assertive can get you both noticed and rewarded at the same time. Train yourself to understand that you can intentionally increase your own value. Having the peace of mind that comes with identifying and understanding your own emotions, and those of others is comforting and invaluable. The management of those emotions is really the glue that keeps it all together.
We are keen to have feedback and address any topics you would like discussed from the perspective of soft skills and leadership.
Sending you good vibes!!
Dr. Amala & Terrin
